By Simon Scoggins
I am many things – a son, a partner, I love to sew and spend time in the garden, and much more. My sexuality is just one part of who I am; it shouldn’t define me. Yet, for much of my life, it has – and continues to – shape how I’m seen and how I navigate the world around me.
Growing up, I learned early that being different came with challenges. But it also taught me resilience, the importance of self-acceptance, and the power of living authentically despite the obstacles.
From a young age, I knew I was different. Thanks to my wonderful parents and grandparents, I have cherished memories of playing with plastic tea sets under the tropical trees of Darwin, surrounded by friends and my homemade Humpty-Dumpty. They never boxed me into “boy” toys or stereotypes. In fact, at nine years old, I convinced my grandmother to buy me a Barbie campervan – a small act of rebellion that meant the world to me.
Back then, I didn’t have the words to explain how I felt, but I sensed that I was unique. Unfortunately, school and society soon handed me labels – harsh and hurtful – and how I expressed love was deemed illegal.
I learned early on that hiding my true self was a survival skill.
Thankfully, society has evolved – to a point. Events like Mardi Gras lit a path toward self-acceptance and celebration. I slowly learned to navigate life authentically, though discrimination still cast long shadows – in workplaces, communities and beyond.
The 2017 same-sex marriage plebiscite was a stark reminder of the challenges we face. What should have been a straightforward affirmation of love turned into a divisive spectacle, amplifying homophobia and toxicity, especially on social media. It felt like a step backward, a painful moment that showed how much work remains.
Even today, subtle resistance persists. Just last month, my local council raised the flag for IDAHOBIT Day – a celebration of LGBTQIA+ rights and inclusion. Yet, some questioned its importance, arguing that fixing roads should take priority. This false choice between infrastructure and equality is a tired but persistent narrative that undermines the dignity of many.
Pride Month is our time to shine a light on equality, inclusion and respect. But it’s also a reminder that even in so-called advanced democracies, these ideals are under threat. For me, it means there are still moments when I must “come out” again, clarify my pronouns, and correct assumptions about who I love. Sometimes I let it slide in casual settings; other times, I speak up because visibility matters.
The journey is ongoing. Progress has been made, but the road ahead calls for courage, empathy and action. By sharing our stories and standing together, we can create a world where everyone’s true self is celebrated – without fear, without apology.
Thanks for listening to my story. Let’s keep pushing for a future where love and identity are embraced in all their beautiful diversity.
Simon Scoggins is Melba’s Business Application Support Officer
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